The good side of bullying

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

The title may have offended you or it may have evoked disgust at me for writing such a thing. However, if you read the definition and explanation of the title, you will understand, insha’Allah.

Being a person who was bullied myself, I remember every horrible emotion, thought and feeling that I felt during those hard times. And it hasn’t gone away.

But one thing that I have found during my life and even now, after everything, is a good part of me which I love.

At first, I thought it must just be that I was blessed with these qualities as everyone gets different blessings. But then I saw a link forming with this blessing within the self and bullying.

I have been watching some YouTubers for a few years now and I know quite a lot about them. One thing I know about a few of them is………that they were bullied. In high school, secondary school, middle school, you name it, they were bullied.

The special thing about these few YouTubers that were bullied is that they posses the qualities which I thought were just a blessing from Allah (SWT) to me.

The qualities that I speak about are kindness to humanity at large, a real care and concern for humanity, love for animals and the world, a desire to spread only love around the world and most importantly, a strong sense of faith, where everything comes from.

I will show you some examples of this from YouTubers that I know that are like this after being bullied.

The first YouTuber is Karim Metwaly (AreWeFamousNow/AreWeKukuNow). He is known for his loving, caring and peaceful attitude to the world.

In the video below, he speaks about the beauty of people.

The second YouTuber is Yousef Erakat (FouseyTube). He is now known for his social experiments of real life situations.

The video below is about the reactions of people to discrimination towards hijab-wearing women.

The third YouTubers are TrueStoryASA (TrueStoryASA/ASA Vlogs). They are known for being very loving towards all creatures, especially Adam Saleh.

This video is a way that they wished to just help the homeless, without realising that they would start a worldwide movement.

The fourth YouTuber is Amena Khan (Amenakin). She is known for her love of helping others by inspiring and motivating sisters/women.

This video is one of her videos in which she just talks about an issue she can speak about from a personal perspective.

These four/five YouTubers have been my evidence for bullying not being all bad.

Yes, it is definitely the one of the worst things you can go through at that time, without a doubt. But the way Allah (SWT) gives you blessings isn’t always the way that you want it to be.

Sometimes we do need to look a little bit deeper to see the light shining at the end of the tunnel.

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤



Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I was flicking through my subscription list on YouTube to see all of the videos that had been uploaded and I came across Yousef Erakat (FouseyVille)’s video. It was titled “CLEARLY I’M NOT A MUSLIM?” in which he spoke about a comment he received after doing a video with a girl sitting right beside him. The comment read “Clearly you’re not a Muslim.”. He responded in an angry manner but with good points. He questioned how sitting next to a girl made me a non-Muslim, how helping someone with a problem made him a non-Muslim and how someone who doesn’t know him at all can be the one to take away his Islam.

The video made me think about the attitude that I used to have, which was that if people were doing bad things they weren’t good Muslims or if they weren’t praying that they weren’t Muslim. These ignorant and disgraceful views, that I used to have, have been challenged recently in my life through both my mentoring and my life. I have come to realise a lot about a Muslim living in the West and also I was reminded that in the same way that I have done bad things, other people are also human and make mistakes.

The best thing to do if you see someone, a Muslim or a non-Muslim, doing something wrong, is to make dua for their guidance and safety from the issue which is causing them to go astray. This is what you do if you really love your brother or sister.

This is the video.

I also remembered coming across Karim Metwaly (AreWeKuKuNow)’s video on the same topic. It is titled “I am not a Muslim?” In the video, he talks about the various comments he had got about him not being a Muslim. I wasn’t too sure of the context of this video however it was very powerful.

He was also accused of not being a Muslim due to the content of his videos. This infuriated him, as I am sure it would do to anyone, so he vented through the video.

This is the video.

The subject of being labelled a non-Muslim reminded me of the time before I practised Islam. I used to be laughed at due to the fact that I wasn’t interested in Islam and I didn’t know how to practise it properly.

I distinctly remember a particular instance when one of the more religious people asked me a weird question.

“What would you rather do, watch Top of the Pops or read Quran? (I think that was the other option. I know it was an Islamic option in contrast.)”

I then said, with full passion, “Watch Top of the Pops, of course.” I was confused as to why they asked me this, at the time. (Now I fully understand!) So I enquired and in between heavy laughing and scornful words, they replied “Oh, no reason.”

Now the situation is quite different! (Alhumdulillah!!) The same people, who used to laugh at me, now try to be my best friend, and I talk to them nicely but I will always keep my distance.

Negative people should have no place in your life!!

As we are all humans, we will make mistakes. However, the difference between a profitable person and a non-profitable person is whether they learn from them.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤