Breast Cancer Care Ribbon Walk 2014

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I have been quite busy over the last few weeks with a variety of things. But one thing which I am really excited about is the Breast Cancer Care Ribbon Walk which I will be doing on 17th May 2014, insha’Allah.

Breast Cancer Care is a great charity which aims to help breast cancer patients deal with everything in a much better way, through support, help and comfort.

They have helped countless number of people and insha’Allah, I hope to help them help others.

I hope that you can all join the Ribbon Walk as well!

I am raising money for the charity through my page, https://www.justgiving.com/MubinaKadiri/, and through JustTextGiving with my code, BCCM 50.

JustTextGiving works by you sending the code above, BCCM 50, then the amount that you wish to donate, e.g. £1, to 70070. This will come out of your mobile bill at the end of the month or out of your pay as you go bill.

Please can you give as much as you can to those who really need it and deserve it?

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

The homeless Hungarian lottery winner who is giving his money to charity

Assalaamualaikum,

I hope you are well.

I had to share this beautiful story that I found today.

May we all be as generous with the bounty that we are given! Ameen.

The homeless Hungarian lottery winner who is giving his money to charity

http://gu.com/p/3n2p4

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Shine Strong: Changing Gender Inequality

Assalaamualaikum,

I had to share this amazing post!

JazakAllahu khairan.

A Modern Muslimah ❤

habibi lifestyle

The issue of gender equality and female empowerment seems to be following me this week in several forms. Unable to ignore it, I’ve realised that we in fact have a very long way to go and despite being in 2014, there are still archaic notions behind gender equality which should have died a long time ago.

My first brush came over the weekend with this powerful but succinct ad on YouTube that caught my eye and started this train of thought. Pantene in the Philippines touched on the issue of gender inequality at work in a 60 second ad, which showed the different labels society places on men and women in equal positions. A man standing at a podium, giving a speech is deemed persuasive, yet a woman doing the same thing is seen as pushy. A man with parental responsibilities staying up late to work is “dedicated” whereas a…

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Brother who?

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are all well.

Today I saw just what Muslim males are capable of being.

I went down to the prayer room within the training centre that I am at and began praying. Then after about 2 rakaat into my fardh salaah, I saw someone come in from the corner of my eye. I thought it was a sister so I didn’t take much notice. However the person then walked across to the sink and did wudhu. That’s when I realised this was not a female. I then continued praying, as I was in the middle of my salaah, being as careful as I could in each gesture.

Throughout it all, I felt an inherent fear and confusion as to how a Muslim male could come into a room with just one female within it. Did he not know how to behave with women? Did he think it was okay?

As soon as I finished, I kindly requested that he leave until I finish my salaah. I also added that it’s not good for a man to come in whilst a female is praying. He then responded to this by saying he is a lecturer. I then replied “What does it matter? Brother please can you leave whilst I finish my salaah?”

This then set him off. He replied in a disgusting, vile and intimidating manner saying “I am not your brother! I am a lecturer and you are a student. Don’t tell me what to do!”

To see this response from someone who I am supposed to call my brother, angered, shocked and disgusted me! His arrogance at his position, coupled with his complete ignorance of khalwah (a male and female being alone), made me question just what kind of a male he really was.

He was not young and he clearly was of sane mind as he spoke with another brother who thought it was completely fine to come in whilst I was in the prayer room as well!

After the incident, I did report the incident and it is currently being looked into.

Brothers need to realise that they need to lower their gaze more than us females and that the prayer room doesn’t belong to them, thus not allowing them to feel as though they can barge in at any time.

At work, I have similar issues but not the same. As I just truly engross myself within salaah, I am met by a hard and loud attempt to gain access to the prayer room, jolting me and making me slightly lose my concentration.

Where has the hayaa in males gone?

Where have the manners gone from males?

What is going on?

Being used to males who would look down as I walked to what I have now which are males who stare as I go, I feel out of my depth and uncomfortable.

Do these males not understand what us Muslim and non-Muslim females feel when we are alone with them?

If not, I will tell you.

It is a mix of slight fear, apprehension, confusion and uncertainty. It is that feeling in which a person has to prepare themselves for anything that may come their way.

Islam has made women important and special in various aspects. For example, women have a whole surah about them in the Qur’an! We definitely must be something special then!

This complete disregard to Muslimahs needs to change.

Insha’Allah may we all be aware of our mistakes and rectify ourselves! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

I’m back and working well!!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

If anyone is still there, I am back!

(Insha’Allah for good!)

Sorry for going away for soooo long but I really just didn’t have the energy to blog, between work and training and my other commitments.

I definitely will try to keep up with blogging but I can’t make any promises… 😦

I just had to come back as the community of people here is just so amazing, allowing me to be able to be with other Muslim people when I can’t physically be with other Muslim people.

So let me update you on everything that has been going on!

At work, I have been doing quite well (in my opinion!) and we have another apprentice who joined us in October. His name is James and he’s been quite nice. I have started to see how the people in my team REALLY are like, which has been interesting…. I have seen some rather bad tendencies within the team, from back-biting, lying, immorality, lewdness and much more. However, I have had to try and keep myself out of these evil sins.

A few things that I will strive to implement when I go back to work (I’m on training at the moment.) are:

– saying good things about those being spoken about
– saying something when lewdness or immorality is being spoken about
– talking to them about the Deen more
– advising them not to speak in such a manner
– trying to change the subject
– doing dhikr (if I can’t get them to stop talking about bad things)
– NOT GETTING INVOLVED, AT ALL

The workplace has become quite hard to deal with, as many of the internal customers have been quite ungrateful and just generally horrible. But I recently got a reminder as to how I should do my work, which will allow me to always be happy and never depressed. That is to do everything for Allah(SWT) only. Never for any human being but only to obtain reward. That way, if anyone doesn’t say thank you or is ungrateful, horrible, etc., it will not matter to you because you would know that you have done your deed and Allah(SWT) has seen it. That is all that matters. Period.

Another area of my day, which hasn’t had as much TLC as it deserves, is my salaah. It is quite a bold thing to say (or write!) out loud but insha’Allah through saying it and looking at how to deal with it best it may help others who are going through the same thing.
We do have a prayer room and it is lovely and bare. It has absolutely nothing to it, allowing you to really switch off from work. (Insha’Allah I will try to take a picture of it.)
Even though there are about 7 or 8 people who come to the prayer room, it is quite busy as both men and women have to share access to this one room. Resulting in salawaat not peacefully completed. Between the demands of work and the demands of the next brother who needs to pray, you are left with a short amount of time to fulfill your salaah. This means the bare essentials only, with a couple of sunnah if you’re lucky. This is detrimental to us as Muslims, because we spend so much time at work yet we don’t get to live our lives at work in a full manner.
A few tips to help with this come from a course that I took with Productive Muslim called Productivity in the Workplace (I think that’s the title….)
They are as follows:

– Don’t rush your salaah. Read shorter surahs but NEVER rush it.
– Pray at the stated times, not when you have a bit of time.
– Prioritise your salaah over your work.
– Don’t be shy in asking for a break to pray within a meeting. Just like smokers will be granted a break to smoke, you should also be entitled to take some time out to do something far greater.

Last but not least is keeping up your imaan in a workplace which has more non-Muslims than Muslims. This is a common issue in many corporate environments around the world, especially in larger companies. When I first went to work, it was a big shock for me as I had spent the two years prior to that in a college close to East London, which had a majority of Muslims and a minority of non-Muslims. (This is also where and when I started practising Islam properly, but that’s for another blog post soon, insha’Allah.) I then found it very lonely having only one hijabi sister to talk to and not even all the time. Even though I still feel that I am struggling with this, I feel as though I am getting somewhere. This is because I have been able to grasp the idea that this is another test from Allah SWT to see how I will keep up the many things that I have learned in the last two (actually 3 now!) years. I also thought that maybe it is my mission to help these non-Muslims learn about Islam and its many benefits to their lives. Therefore, I am striving to keep these goals in mind when I feel a bit lonely and down, which will help me to do a lot of good at work, insha’Allah.

Being a good Muslim at all times is what we all strive to do. Just because we are at work, we have to realise that Allah SWT is still watching our every move, listening to every word we say and knowing everything we are thinking. As Abu Productive said “Work is a testing ground for Islamic manners.”

Remembering Allah SWT often will help us in the workplace and will help us in the HereAfter insha’Allah.

I know this has been a slightly long blog post but it was an update/advice post after a LONG time! It had to be a little bit long! 😉

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: First week of training!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I’m so sorry for being late with my post. Trust me to be late after I officially posted my plan last week!

Last week, we didn’t do a lot. We completed an assignment, which should have been done in 5 hours, but we did it in a few days. Oops!

It was to do with customer service and ensuring the customer has the best experience.

It was very interesting in learning how to handle different types of customers and what to do in each case, along with many other things.

We also did a customer care pack, which was to do with how to talk to customers and the types of phrases we would use.

In both there was a lot of content which is hard to explain fully so I just gave a small summary.

Overall, despite my frustration of being corrected by my tutor in a bad way (in my opinion!) on the first assignment, it was a really good week! Everyone is so fun and helpful. Alhumdulillah, we all seem to get on really well.

Despite it being a 1:2 ratio of female to male, it isn’t an awkward or intimidating environment. Alhumdulillah!

I am enjoying this experience a lot and insha’Allah I hope to do really well and learn a lot! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

CLEARLY I’M NOT A MUSLIM?

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I was flicking through my subscription list on YouTube to see all of the videos that had been uploaded and I came across Yousef Erakat (FouseyVille)’s video. It was titled “CLEARLY I’M NOT A MUSLIM?” in which he spoke about a comment he received after doing a video with a girl sitting right beside him. The comment read “Clearly you’re not a Muslim.”. He responded in an angry manner but with good points. He questioned how sitting next to a girl made me a non-Muslim, how helping someone with a problem made him a non-Muslim and how someone who doesn’t know him at all can be the one to take away his Islam.

The video made me think about the attitude that I used to have, which was that if people were doing bad things they weren’t good Muslims or if they weren’t praying that they weren’t Muslim. These ignorant and disgraceful views, that I used to have, have been challenged recently in my life through both my mentoring and my life. I have come to realise a lot about a Muslim living in the West and also I was reminded that in the same way that I have done bad things, other people are also human and make mistakes.

The best thing to do if you see someone, a Muslim or a non-Muslim, doing something wrong, is to make dua for their guidance and safety from the issue which is causing them to go astray. This is what you do if you really love your brother or sister.

This is the video.

I also remembered coming across Karim Metwaly (AreWeKuKuNow)’s video on the same topic. It is titled “I am not a Muslim?” In the video, he talks about the various comments he had got about him not being a Muslim. I wasn’t too sure of the context of this video however it was very powerful.

He was also accused of not being a Muslim due to the content of his videos. This infuriated him, as I am sure it would do to anyone, so he vented through the video.

This is the video.

The subject of being labelled a non-Muslim reminded me of the time before I practised Islam. I used to be laughed at due to the fact that I wasn’t interested in Islam and I didn’t know how to practise it properly.

I distinctly remember a particular instance when one of the more religious people asked me a weird question.

“What would you rather do, watch Top of the Pops or read Quran? (I think that was the other option. I know it was an Islamic option in contrast.)”

I then said, with full passion, “Watch Top of the Pops, of course.” I was confused as to why they asked me this, at the time. (Now I fully understand!) So I enquired and in between heavy laughing and scornful words, they replied “Oh, no reason.”

Now the situation is quite different! (Alhumdulillah!!) The same people, who used to laugh at me, now try to be my best friend, and I talk to them nicely but I will always keep my distance.

Negative people should have no place in your life!!

As we are all humans, we will make mistakes. However, the difference between a profitable person and a non-profitable person is whether they learn from them.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Jummah Thoughts- I want to be a Muslim!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I was at training today and we played a small game just to get our minds awoken. We had about 5 random questions that we had to answer and one of them was “What do you often wonder about?” The answers that two non-Muslims gave were really surprising to me but also really sad for me. Two people(!) wondered about the same thing.

Why are we here?

I wished that I could give them dawah right there and then but I didn’t know if it was the right time and the right environment. I was so sad that they had this void that they couldn’t fill and questions which they couldn’t answer. But questions which I could answer.

The experience made me feel SO appreciative towards Islam and being a Muslim. It also allowed me to really understand that a lot of non-Muslims are searching to try and fill the empty void they have within.

We went to lunch after doing our work and I went to pray during the second half of lunchtime. As I came out of the room, which was empty and had lots of computers in, they were joking at the fact that I had been on the computers in there during lunchtime. I quickly denied it saying that I was praying. Then out of the blue, one of the guys in my class asked, whilst we were waiting for our tutor to open the door,

“How often do you pray?”

The fact that he had asked that showed his interest in Islam and I was so ecstatic about that!

A small comment, such as “No, I was praying.” invoked an interest in a non-Muslim and if we had more time before he came, it may have led to either a far greater understanding of the Deen or even a shahadah!

This whole day’s events just made me more proud and truly grateful for being able to call myself a Muslimah, whilst others are struggling to bring their hearts to rest and allow contentment to flow over them.

Insha’Allah I hope that they all convert to Islam and that they all find that missing piece that they are yearning for. Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

I have how many followers?!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

As I have now got 50 followers, or actually 51, (Alhumdulillah!), I just wanted to say a HUGE thank you/ jazakAllahu khairan!!

I really appreciate the fact that you have chosen to receive my posts either through e-mail or through the other forms of contact that WordPress uses.

When I first started this blog, I did a post here and there but I wasn’t very confident in my ability to interest readers.
When I came back to the blog, after about a year, I had a sincere intention to spread Islam and the beautiful teachings, whilst also giving the perspective of a normal Muslim woman. I began to realise this was more important as bad things were happening around the world, in distant relation to Muslims.

Insha’Allah I hope that through this blog I have been able to fulfill some of my objectives, if not all.

I just hope to continue to be able to do so, insha’Allah.

On this joyous occasion (which should have been last week! Oops!) I wanted to do something special. However I am struggling for ideas. I thought maybe a post giving a bit of a glimpse into my life, through pictures and some written content (if anyone actually cares/is interested!)

If you have any suggestions, please let me know in the comments section below.

I have been thinking about how frequently I blog and realised it is not a lot and not regular. Therefore, I intend to blog every single Sunday (or Monday if something comes up) for the apprenticeship series. I intend to also blog every Thursday evening/Friday about any subject that may come to my attention. (If you have any suggestions, please comment away!)
I have been seeing recently a lot of advice videos on YouTube and I realised that I give advice and help others with their problems, with Allah(SWT)’s permission, nearly every day! So why not an advice series on my blog in which I can try and give the best advice that I possibly can give on a wide range of topics excluding questions pertaining to fatawa and/or any religious ruling?

I am SO appreciative of the support that I have got and I am often surprised by the people who actually enjoy my blog!

Thank you!!!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: Training!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I had my first day of training yesterday which was just made up of inductions and a few tests/quizzes.

I was so worried about the thought of meeting another new lot of people and also being the only female in the class but alhumdulillah, they were all really nice, there were only a few of them so it wasn’t a large group of new faces and there was another female in my group!

We got to know about the assignments that we will be doing and the credits that we need to earn. I’m still slightly confused as to what the assignments, both work-based and centre-based, are actually made up of. However, I should, insha’Allah, be able to get a better idea of what is going on in each assignment as we go along.

It feels like it will be a lot of hard work and a lot of theory but at this point I think I have the motivation and the determination to really do my best in this, insha’Allah.

Today we will be doing the Customer care assignment and I’m not sure yet but we may also continue it on until tomorrow.

A lot of this motivation, Alhumdulillah, has come from seeing children and young adults unable to gain education due to a multitude of reasons. Therefore, for Allah(SWT) first (of course!), I feel that I am doing this for them in a way.

Insha’Allah may all of our brothers and sisters around the world be granted the ability to gain knowledge, both Islamic and non-Islamic. Ameen!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

You ARE beautiful!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Being a woman, a Muslimah and someone who has been bullied about her appearance, I have always felt that thinking or, even more than that, saying that I am beautiful is a stupid thing that isn’t for me to say, think or even to believe the odd person who may say it.

However I realised today that this is a disgraceful thought to even cross my mind.

How dare I even think or say that I am not beautiful when I am one of Allah(SWT)’s Creation?

“Allah(SWT) only creates that which is beautiful and you are a part of His(SWT) Creation and don’t let anyone tell you other than that.” Mohammad Zeyara

We focus on doing things for His(SWT) Sake so why don’t we, those who don’t think of ourselves as beautiful, think of ourselves as beautiful for Allah(SWT)’s Sake?

It’s kind of like if someone was to make a huge intricately decorated cake which takes them a few days, just for you, and then for you to complain about every little detail about the cake. How would that person feel?

Bad, right?

Allah(SWT) is far more important than “that person” so really think about your thoughts on your own self.

Do a complete evaluation on yourself, looking and ACKNOWLEDGING the immense number of good things about you, whether it be your gorgeous silky hair, your caring nature, your beautiful smile or the many other amazing features which you have about yourself.

Imagine you have to do one of those job interview questions where you have to tell them your best attributes and sell yourself to the employer. Then all you have to do is insert in your best attributes.
These work particularly well in boosting your confidence and allowing yourself to be secure in your own self. (Trust me! I have done enough of them to know what I’m talking about! 🙂 )

Anyway, always remember, whatever ANYONE may say about your appearance or about you in general, you are and always will be BEAUTIFUL, since your Creator(SWT) only creates that which is beautiful!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Amenakin also has a great video up, which I took a bit of inspiration from, as well about this.

This is the video.

Recently I just found Yousef Erakat’s take on things. It was such a beautiful message!

This is the video.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤