A Modern Muslimah Sisters’ Talks – OPEN NOW!

Disclaimer
I am not an aalima or a very learned Muslimah. I am just a normal Muslimah trying to learn more about the deen and how to implement it in the 21st century. I intend for these talks to be a way for people to share their knowledge and for us, in our busy lives, to still be able to remember and ponder upon Allah SWT and Muhammad SAW’s commands and guidance.

Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem (In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

I am hoping to set up sisters’ only lecture sessions on Skype, where I will prepare talks, to begin with, varying from imaan to the deen/dunya balance. After the initial stage, I will then be asking the sisters joining to compile their own talks/lectures for the participants. This will allow an open platform for people to be able to gain more confidence in speaking and a better understanding on certain topics within the deen.

To be a part of the experience, insha’Allah, there is a simple procedure. (A Skype account is required.)

1. Comment on this post saying “I’m interested.” (if you are happy to be contacted via the e-mail associated with your WordPress account.) If you would like to be contacted using a different e-mail address, please send me an e-mail at amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com with the message above.

2. Wait for an e-mail from Modern Muslimah (amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com )

3. Respond to the e-mail with the information required

4. If everything is in order, join us for the first session and beyond, insha’Allah! (Dates and times will be revealed to participants.)

Please feel free to share this with as many sisters as you like and please help me to begin this new generation of sisters’ circles!

A Modern Muslimah ❤

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Sisters before misters!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I hope you are well.

I know there has been a lot of time that I have been absent and I am very sorry! But insha’Allah this will make up for it! 🙂

Since I have started work in an office, I have noticed many things. In a much stronger way. I have noticed the way in which some males can be very chauvinistic, the senior leadership roles being filled with white males, the “office politics” that seem to be present everywhere and one of the most important things that I have come across, women in the workplace and their role within the workplace.

As a woman myself, I understand the ups and downs that we all face. From the pressure to look completely perfect all of the time to the consistent attempt to try and fit into a largely male-dominated playing field. 

However, I am different to the other women. 

I am a Muslimah, giving me a whole new perspective on the situation at hand. Being a Muslimah allows me to be saved from the usual pressures of feeling as though my make-up needs to be perfect, my skirt needs to be as high as possible without being trashy, my cleavage needs to be shown without showing too much, my legs need to be completely smooth and toned, my flirting skills need to be amazing to get what I need and so on. 

All of these pressures, put together with the role of trying to be the perfect wife and/or mother, make me feel so incredibly sad and pained to see every single woman who hasn’t been freed by Islam. With so much pressure upon them to be perfect at everything they do, and to do lots of it, I just wish that I could help them and give them the biggest hug in the world! 

My sisters in humanity are incredibly precious to me, whether they look at me with a disgusted look for dressing in the way that I do or actually treat me like any other woman. 

Islam teaches both men and women to truly respect the status of women. 

The status of a woman in Islam is incredible, shown through the jurisdiction regarding them. Women are saved from going to work in order to keep them from being treated badly by male colleagues and to ensure that they do not have extra stress upon themselves. Women are told to cover themselves completely in order to protect themselves and to be known as women who you should not mess with (i.e. women who are not interested in participating in flirting or any other form of debauchery). Women who become mothers have Paradise at the bottom of their feet (not literally!) but through respect, love and patience with mothers, Paradise can easily be earned. 

These are but a few examples of the status of women within Islam, despite what others may believe or say about the subject.

Women are incredibly sensitive, special, amazing, beautiful and strong creatures with so much to give to society. However, media and society in general has reduced the beautiful human to a subservient object of attraction, a tool to be used to fulfill males desires and a angry intense ball of hatred and jealousy for fellow women.

Through this re-shaping, society has started to break down as the true core of society, women, has been reduced to a low level.

I hope that we can do something as sisters in humanity to change this harsh reality and save ourselves and others.

Unusually, all of this stemmed from standing in a bathroom, watching two women put on make-up and fix themselves up in the morning…

May Allah (SWT) help us to be able to lead change and gain closeness to our fellow women. Ameen. 

JazakAllahu khairan for reading this.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Brother who?

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are all well.

Today I saw just what Muslim males are capable of being.

I went down to the prayer room within the training centre that I am at and began praying. Then after about 2 rakaat into my fardh salaah, I saw someone come in from the corner of my eye. I thought it was a sister so I didn’t take much notice. However the person then walked across to the sink and did wudhu. That’s when I realised this was not a female. I then continued praying, as I was in the middle of my salaah, being as careful as I could in each gesture.

Throughout it all, I felt an inherent fear and confusion as to how a Muslim male could come into a room with just one female within it. Did he not know how to behave with women? Did he think it was okay?

As soon as I finished, I kindly requested that he leave until I finish my salaah. I also added that it’s not good for a man to come in whilst a female is praying. He then responded to this by saying he is a lecturer. I then replied “What does it matter? Brother please can you leave whilst I finish my salaah?”

This then set him off. He replied in a disgusting, vile and intimidating manner saying “I am not your brother! I am a lecturer and you are a student. Don’t tell me what to do!”

To see this response from someone who I am supposed to call my brother, angered, shocked and disgusted me! His arrogance at his position, coupled with his complete ignorance of khalwah (a male and female being alone), made me question just what kind of a male he really was.

He was not young and he clearly was of sane mind as he spoke with another brother who thought it was completely fine to come in whilst I was in the prayer room as well!

After the incident, I did report the incident and it is currently being looked into.

Brothers need to realise that they need to lower their gaze more than us females and that the prayer room doesn’t belong to them, thus not allowing them to feel as though they can barge in at any time.

At work, I have similar issues but not the same. As I just truly engross myself within salaah, I am met by a hard and loud attempt to gain access to the prayer room, jolting me and making me slightly lose my concentration.

Where has the hayaa in males gone?

Where have the manners gone from males?

What is going on?

Being used to males who would look down as I walked to what I have now which are males who stare as I go, I feel out of my depth and uncomfortable.

Do these males not understand what us Muslim and non-Muslim females feel when we are alone with them?

If not, I will tell you.

It is a mix of slight fear, apprehension, confusion and uncertainty. It is that feeling in which a person has to prepare themselves for anything that may come their way.

Islam has made women important and special in various aspects. For example, women have a whole surah about them in the Qur’an! We definitely must be something special then!

This complete disregard to Muslimahs needs to change.

Insha’Allah may we all be aware of our mistakes and rectify ourselves! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

I’m back and working well!!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

If anyone is still there, I am back!

(Insha’Allah for good!)

Sorry for going away for soooo long but I really just didn’t have the energy to blog, between work and training and my other commitments.

I definitely will try to keep up with blogging but I can’t make any promises… 😦

I just had to come back as the community of people here is just so amazing, allowing me to be able to be with other Muslim people when I can’t physically be with other Muslim people.

So let me update you on everything that has been going on!

At work, I have been doing quite well (in my opinion!) and we have another apprentice who joined us in October. His name is James and he’s been quite nice. I have started to see how the people in my team REALLY are like, which has been interesting…. I have seen some rather bad tendencies within the team, from back-biting, lying, immorality, lewdness and much more. However, I have had to try and keep myself out of these evil sins.

A few things that I will strive to implement when I go back to work (I’m on training at the moment.) are:

– saying good things about those being spoken about
– saying something when lewdness or immorality is being spoken about
– talking to them about the Deen more
– advising them not to speak in such a manner
– trying to change the subject
– doing dhikr (if I can’t get them to stop talking about bad things)
– NOT GETTING INVOLVED, AT ALL

The workplace has become quite hard to deal with, as many of the internal customers have been quite ungrateful and just generally horrible. But I recently got a reminder as to how I should do my work, which will allow me to always be happy and never depressed. That is to do everything for Allah(SWT) only. Never for any human being but only to obtain reward. That way, if anyone doesn’t say thank you or is ungrateful, horrible, etc., it will not matter to you because you would know that you have done your deed and Allah(SWT) has seen it. That is all that matters. Period.

Another area of my day, which hasn’t had as much TLC as it deserves, is my salaah. It is quite a bold thing to say (or write!) out loud but insha’Allah through saying it and looking at how to deal with it best it may help others who are going through the same thing.
We do have a prayer room and it is lovely and bare. It has absolutely nothing to it, allowing you to really switch off from work. (Insha’Allah I will try to take a picture of it.)
Even though there are about 7 or 8 people who come to the prayer room, it is quite busy as both men and women have to share access to this one room. Resulting in salawaat not peacefully completed. Between the demands of work and the demands of the next brother who needs to pray, you are left with a short amount of time to fulfill your salaah. This means the bare essentials only, with a couple of sunnah if you’re lucky. This is detrimental to us as Muslims, because we spend so much time at work yet we don’t get to live our lives at work in a full manner.
A few tips to help with this come from a course that I took with Productive Muslim called Productivity in the Workplace (I think that’s the title….)
They are as follows:

– Don’t rush your salaah. Read shorter surahs but NEVER rush it.
– Pray at the stated times, not when you have a bit of time.
– Prioritise your salaah over your work.
– Don’t be shy in asking for a break to pray within a meeting. Just like smokers will be granted a break to smoke, you should also be entitled to take some time out to do something far greater.

Last but not least is keeping up your imaan in a workplace which has more non-Muslims than Muslims. This is a common issue in many corporate environments around the world, especially in larger companies. When I first went to work, it was a big shock for me as I had spent the two years prior to that in a college close to East London, which had a majority of Muslims and a minority of non-Muslims. (This is also where and when I started practising Islam properly, but that’s for another blog post soon, insha’Allah.) I then found it very lonely having only one hijabi sister to talk to and not even all the time. Even though I still feel that I am struggling with this, I feel as though I am getting somewhere. This is because I have been able to grasp the idea that this is another test from Allah SWT to see how I will keep up the many things that I have learned in the last two (actually 3 now!) years. I also thought that maybe it is my mission to help these non-Muslims learn about Islam and its many benefits to their lives. Therefore, I am striving to keep these goals in mind when I feel a bit lonely and down, which will help me to do a lot of good at work, insha’Allah.

Being a good Muslim at all times is what we all strive to do. Just because we are at work, we have to realise that Allah SWT is still watching our every move, listening to every word we say and knowing everything we are thinking. As Abu Productive said “Work is a testing ground for Islamic manners.”

Remembering Allah SWT often will help us in the workplace and will help us in the HereAfter insha’Allah.

I know this has been a slightly long blog post but it was an update/advice post after a LONG time! It had to be a little bit long! 😉

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: Training!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I had my first day of training yesterday which was just made up of inductions and a few tests/quizzes.

I was so worried about the thought of meeting another new lot of people and also being the only female in the class but alhumdulillah, they were all really nice, there were only a few of them so it wasn’t a large group of new faces and there was another female in my group!

We got to know about the assignments that we will be doing and the credits that we need to earn. I’m still slightly confused as to what the assignments, both work-based and centre-based, are actually made up of. However, I should, insha’Allah, be able to get a better idea of what is going on in each assignment as we go along.

It feels like it will be a lot of hard work and a lot of theory but at this point I think I have the motivation and the determination to really do my best in this, insha’Allah.

Today we will be doing the Customer care assignment and I’m not sure yet but we may also continue it on until tomorrow.

A lot of this motivation, Alhumdulillah, has come from seeing children and young adults unable to gain education due to a multitude of reasons. Therefore, for Allah(SWT) first (of course!), I feel that I am doing this for them in a way.

Insha’Allah may all of our brothers and sisters around the world be granted the ability to gain knowledge, both Islamic and non-Islamic. Ameen!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Allepo’s child nurse- at only 14 years old!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I hope you are well.

I came across this amazing video about an extraordinary young man who has inspired me so much.

Upon watching this video, my eyes flowed with tears and my mouth continuously uttered duas.

This young man embodies the Muslim youth, the Syrian revolution and the future for the Islamic world!

Tabaraka’Allah!!

May Allah(SWT) grant him and others like him Jannah tul Firdaus without any reckoning, goodness in this dunya and the Akhirah, ease, a beautiful, pious and caring wife and for his dream, to become a doctor, to come true! Insha’Allah ameen.

This is the video.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: after 2 weeks!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

So sorry for not posting in ages!

I have just not had the energy to do so. I never realised just how hard it is, at times, to be a full-time working Muslimah!

Anyway, I thought I would reflect upon my first two weeks.(This is actually the only time that I have enough energy to write. It’s just a coincidence that it was at the end of my first two weeks. 🙂 )

The first week allowed me to gain a lot of information as to how to use everything and how to solve common problems found by users. It also allowed to get to know the company culture, become closer with my team, get to know people, and start using the staff benefits! 😉

I got to know some things about the users, from the ones to avoid at times (My team suggested them!) to the ones that need immediate attention.

I also got to know little tips and tricks which would help me in times to come.

The amount of software and hardware that I need to get a good grip on is quite big but alhumdulillah it seems to be going well so far and insha’Allah it will continue to go well and I will become very proficient with all the bits of technology that I will be using, insha’Allah.

My team have been really good as well, alhumdulillah! There is a woman in the team and another woman who sits next to me from another team, alhumdulillah, so it’s not that bad. Altogether, including the other apprentice (whose name is Matthew, by the way), we are a team of 6. Small but powerful! 🙂

As I go into my last week for this section of work time, I am slightly apprehensive of what the first two weeks of training will entail and how my classmates and tutor will be. Insha’Allah everything will be really good! (Ameen!)

Oh I completely forgot to tell you guys that I had a meeting with my work-place assessor on the Friday within the first week. (Sorry!) He went through what his role will be during the apprenticeship and how the training will be roughly set up. He gave us a outline of how we will be assessed, from work-place assessments to exams to assignments. We were given a schedule for the entire year and we were even told about the complaints process! They’re clearly focussed on making our experience the best it can be! Alhumdulillah! He then gave us all of his details and left. We now have scheduled meetings with him every six weeks, I think.

Apart from what is written above, I don’t think that I have anything else to tell you guys about. Just that it’s going well (Alhumdulillah times a billion!) at the moment. Insha’Allah I will try and take some pictures to show you what it is like there but I’m a bit worried that I will look a bit silly!

If you have anything which you like to know in particular or any questions unrelated, just drop me a comment and insha’Allah I will get back to you as soon as possible.

JazakAllahu khairan for sharing this experience with me and sorry for not posting much.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: After 3 days

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Sorry for not posting after my first day. I have been so tired the past 2 days as I get into the 9-5 routine.

My first day was okay but slightly boring as we just had loads of inductions, from both Human Resources and the Technology Support team. We, another apprentice and I, got acquainted with our desks and we got to know what lied ahead for us.

The second day was better as we got to go through a few installations and sort out some printer jams. We got to know how to do it and how to report a fault to the manufacturer if we can’t do anything else. We couldn’t do a lot because only one person of the Technology Support team was there and she had to take calls, as well as keeping us engaged!

The third day, i.e. yesterday, we learned a lot more, from how to resolve calls to how to add a new person into the system. The other person in the Technology Support team came in, after being ill, so we did it with him. With the woman in the team, we went through how to set up a BlackBerry for people in specific departments.

And we got a cupcake! Due to the launch of QVC Extra and QVC Style, the entire Technology department and Media department were all treated to a gorgeous cupcake!

All of the staff seem very genuine, kind, respectful, caring, understanding and very open, alhumdulillah!!! I realised this when the CEO of the company(!) came upstairs to call a member of Technology Support to help him with his problem, when he could have just got someone else to go up for him. That down-to-earth-edness (I made up this word! 🙂 ) is so amazing to see in a HUGE company and just as he doesn’t see himself too big to walk up to Technology Support himself, so does no-one else feel uncomfortable chatting and being friendly to every single person, whether they are in a department above you or a role “below you”.

From this lovely atmosphere (Alhumdulillah!), I feel like part of the company after just 3 days! I don’t think you could feel that with a lot of other companies out there!

Alhumdulillah for everything!

However, one important thing that I was thinking about was the fact that when working in an environment where it is predominantly non-Muslims, your heart may become hard as more of the love of the dunya enters into your heart.

I was wondering if you could help me by telling me some ways I could prevent this as the Akhirah is far more important than the dunya.

JazakAllahu khairan for actually reading this and being a part of my experience as well.

If you have any questions, please ask away!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

As I will be starting my apprenticeship next week, which will last for about a year, I thought to myself why don’t I blog about my apprenticeship and my experience for both other apprentices and the general public to understand what an apprentice and apprenticeship is, and what an apprenticeship entails.

Would you guys be interested?

I will try and do weekly blog posts with some daily blog posts scattered in there, insha’Allah!

I will try to speak about my experiences, feelings, anxieties and what I have learned through it, with the hope that it might help someone deal with and understand the apprenticeship as a whole, insha’Allah.

I thought of this idea just tonight as I sat thinking about what my first day and the apprenticeship, as a whole, will be like.

Oh and for those who have been very confused for the majority of this post as to what I have meant by “apprenticeship”, firstly, sorry! Secondly, I shall explain.

An apprenticeship is a programme which allows you to learn the knowledge needed for your particular field of interest, whilst allowing you to put the knowledge you have learned into practice, pretty much straight away. You also learn some key skills, such as team-work, confidence, professionalism in the work place, health and safety, plus many more. You get paid at least £2.60 an hour. Most apprentices earn about £170-£250 a week. You also get all of the benefits of a normal employee, such as paid holidays, company benefits, etc. Your studies are not for qualifications seen mostly at school or college but a lot of the time, they are industry-related qualifications specifically tailored to apprenticeships and they are known all around the world, whilst only a degree is known around the world.

In short, they are a great way to get your foot into the door of major and smaller companies as well, with Sky, Virgin Atlantic, Qatar Airways and Rolls Royce, being just some of the many companies that offer a way in.

Please let me know if this will be of interest to you!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤