A Modern Muslimah Sisters’ Talks – OPEN NOW!

Disclaimer
I am not an aalima or a very learned Muslimah. I am just a normal Muslimah trying to learn more about the deen and how to implement it in the 21st century. I intend for these talks to be a way for people to share their knowledge and for us, in our busy lives, to still be able to remember and ponder upon Allah SWT and Muhammad SAW’s commands and guidance.

Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem (In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

I am hoping to set up sisters’ only lecture sessions on Skype, where I will prepare talks, to begin with, varying from imaan to the deen/dunya balance. After the initial stage, I will then be asking the sisters joining to compile their own talks/lectures for the participants. This will allow an open platform for people to be able to gain more confidence in speaking and a better understanding on certain topics within the deen.

To be a part of the experience, insha’Allah, there is a simple procedure. (A Skype account is required.)

1. Comment on this post saying “I’m interested.” (if you are happy to be contacted via the e-mail associated with your WordPress account.) If you would like to be contacted using a different e-mail address, please send me an e-mail at amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com with the message above.

2. Wait for an e-mail from Modern Muslimah (amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com )

3. Respond to the e-mail with the information required

4. If everything is in order, join us for the first session and beyond, insha’Allah! (Dates and times will be revealed to participants.)

Please feel free to share this with as many sisters as you like and please help me to begin this new generation of sisters’ circles!

A Modern Muslimah โค

Sisters before misters!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I hope you are well.

I know there has been a lot of time that I have been absent and I am very sorry! But insha’Allah this will make up for it! ๐Ÿ™‚

Since I have started work in an office, I have noticed many things. In a much stronger way. I have noticed the way in which some males can be very chauvinistic, the senior leadership roles being filled with white males, the “office politics” that seem to be present everywhere and one of the most important things that I have come across, women in the workplace and their role within the workplace.

As a woman myself, I understand the ups and downs that we all face. From the pressure to look completely perfect all of the time to the consistent attempt to try and fit into a largely male-dominated playing field.ย 

However, I am different to the other women.ย 

I am a Muslimah, giving me a whole new perspective on the situation at hand. Being a Muslimah allows me to be saved from the usual pressures of feeling as though my make-up needs to be perfect, my skirt needs to be as high as possible without being trashy, my cleavage needs to be shown without showing too much, my legs need to be completely smooth and toned, my flirting skills need to be amazing to get what I need and so on.ย 

All of these pressures, put together with the role of trying to be the perfect wife and/or mother, make me feel so incredibly sad and pained to see every single woman who hasn’t been freed by Islam. With so much pressure upon them to be perfect at everything they do, and to do lots of it, I just wish that I could help them and give them the biggest hug in the world!ย 

My sisters in humanity are incredibly precious to me, whether they look at me with a disgusted look for dressing in the way that I do or actually treat me like any other woman.ย 

Islam teaches both men and women to truly respect the status of women.ย 

The status of a woman in Islam is incredible, shown through the jurisdiction regarding them. Women are saved from going to work in order to keep them from being treated badly by male colleagues and to ensure that they do not have extra stress upon themselves. Women are told to cover themselves completely in order to protect themselves and to be known as women who you should not mess with (i.e. women who are not interested in participating in flirting or any other form of debauchery). Women who become mothers have Paradise at the bottom of their feet (not literally!) but through respect, love and patience with mothers, Paradise can easily be earned.ย 

These are but a few examples of the status of women within Islam, despite what others may believe or say about the subject.

Women are incredibly sensitive, special, amazing, beautiful and strong creatures with so much to give to society. However, media and society in general has reduced the beautiful human to a subservient object of attraction, a tool to be used to fulfill males desires and a angry intense ball of hatred and jealousy for fellow women.

Through this re-shaping, society has started to break down as the true core of society, women, has been reduced to a low level.

I hope that we can do something as sisters in humanity to change this harsh reality and save ourselves and others.

Unusually, all of this stemmed from standing in a bathroom, watching two women put on make-up and fix themselves up in the morning…

May Allah (SWT) help us to be able to lead change and gain closeness to our fellow women. Ameen.ย 

JazakAllahu khairan for reading this.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

A Modern Muslimah โค

Breast Cancer Care Ribbon Walk 2014

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I have been quite busy over the last few weeks with a variety of things. But one thing which I am really excited about is the Breast Cancer Care Ribbon Walk which I will be doing on 17th May 2014, insha’Allah.

Breast Cancer Care is a great charity which aims to help breast cancer patients deal with everything in a much better way, through support, help and comfort.

They have helped countless number of people and insha’Allah, I hope to help them help others.

I hope that you can all join the Ribbon Walk as well!

I am raising money for the charity through my page, https://www.justgiving.com/MubinaKadiri/, and through JustTextGiving with my code, BCCM 50.

JustTextGiving works by you sending the code above, BCCM 50, then the amount that you wish to donate, e.g. ยฃ1, to 70070. This will come out of your mobile bill at the end of the month or out of your pay as you go bill.

Please can you give as much as you can to those who really need it and deserve it?

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah โค

Never mind lads’ mags, here are some other things I’d stick in a modesty bag | Hadley Freeman

Never mind lads’ mags, here are some other things I’d stick in a modesty bag | Hadley Freeman

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A Modern Muslimah โค

My apprenticeship experience: after 2 weeks!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

So sorry for not posting in ages!

I have just not had the energy to do so. I never realised just how hard it is, at times, to be a full-time working Muslimah!

Anyway, I thought I would reflect upon my first two weeks.(This is actually the only time that I have enough energy to write. It’s just a coincidence that it was at the end of my first two weeks. ๐Ÿ™‚ )

The first week allowed me to gain a lot of information as to how to use everything and how to solve common problems found by users. It also allowed to get to know the company culture, become closer with my team, get to know people, and start using the staff benefits! ๐Ÿ˜‰

I got to know some things about the users, from the ones to avoid at times (My team suggested them!) to the ones that need immediate attention.

I also got to know little tips and tricks which would help me in times to come.

The amount of software and hardware that I need to get a good grip on is quite big but alhumdulillah it seems to be going well so far and insha’Allah it will continue to go well and I will become very proficient with all the bits of technology that I will be using, insha’Allah.

My team have been really good as well, alhumdulillah! There is a woman in the team and another woman who sits next to me from another team, alhumdulillah, so it’s not that bad. Altogether, including the other apprentice (whose name is Matthew, by the way), we are a team of 6. Small but powerful! ๐Ÿ™‚

As I go into my last week for this section of work time, I am slightly apprehensive of what the first two weeks of training will entail and how my classmates and tutor will be. Insha’Allah everything will be really good! (Ameen!)

Oh I completely forgot to tell you guys that I had a meeting with my work-place assessor on the Friday within the first week. (Sorry!) He went through what his role will be during the apprenticeship and how the training will be roughly set up. He gave us a outline of how we will be assessed, from work-place assessments to exams to assignments. We were given a schedule for the entire year and we were even told about the complaints process! They’re clearly focussed on making our experience the best it can be! Alhumdulillah! He then gave us all of his details and left. We now have scheduled meetings with him every six weeks, I think.

Apart from what is written above, I don’t think that I have anything else to tell you guys about. Just that it’s going well (Alhumdulillah times a billion!) at the moment. Insha’Allah I will try and take some pictures to show you what it is like there but I’m a bit worried that I will look a bit silly!

If you have anything which you like to know in particular or any questions unrelated, just drop me a comment and insha’Allah I will get back to you as soon as possible.

JazakAllahu khairan for sharing this experience with me and sorry for not posting much.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah โค

All dressed up….

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. [33:59]

This beautiful ayah(verse) talks about how women should cover themselves properly, when going out, in order to be known as Muslim women and also to be safe from molestation, whether that be physical molestation, molestation of the eyes or any other type.

This verse, among others dealing with why we, as women, should dress modestly, is a clear way of understanding the reasons behind the hijab, abaya and other modest clothing. It is a means of protection for us! It is also a way to make us stand out of the crowd and show society that we are never going to bow down to the pressure of fashion trends.
Through this identity, we are also able to find and recognise our sisters very easily, making it easier for us in places we are not familiar with. From my own experience, I know that the face of a hijabi or niqabi has been a welcome sight in many places where I was out of my depth!

The complaints of hijabis and niqabis that I both see and hear seems to be that they feel restricted and find it too much for themselves, especially in Western countries where they are exposed to women dressing immodestly. This immodesty is made to seem appealing, with no advert being complete without a naked sister (in humanity) being spread across it.

But as some more knowledgable sisters look at these sisters in disgust for saying something against the commands of Allah(SWT), I don’t. Instead I understand them.

Firstly, because they were probably never taught about the virtues of hijab (in its literal sense and its broad sense) but they were just told to put a cloth on their heads and to go out. This form of “education” makes sisters think that it is okay to talk and flirt with boys and wear tight clothing, just as long as their hijab is on properly.
Secondly, because a lot of the sisters don’t have the sufficient knowledge AND wisdom to understand why Allah(SWT) has ordained these laws. It is the duty of every Muslim woman and man to gain knowledge themselves but it is also the responsibility of every Muslim man and woman with knowledge, be it an atom’s weight or a watermelon’s weight, to share that knowledge! Therefore both are responsible!

The point that I am trying to make here is that although all our sisters(in humanity and Islam) may be at different stages in dressing up in a way that pleases Allah(SWT), it is not for any of us to look at another in a rude and scornful manner. Each one of us has either been dressed like that, or similar, or we will become like that if we follow and highlight other sisters’ wrongs.

May Allah (SWT) help us all to be modest in a way in which He(SWT) loves! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah โค