Forgiving those who hurt you

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Just now, I was thinking about someone who had hurt me at work with the way that they spoke and the way that they were with me.

But Allah SWT inspired a beautiful thought in my mind: to forgive them and let Allah SWT deal with these affairs wholly.

The act of genuinely forgiving everyone who has ever hurt you in your life can be hard. Especially if they are deep wounds that still affect you today. However, even though I am finding it a little hard to fully and completely forgive everyone who has hurt me, what keeps me going in the right direction is remembering that Allah SWT is the All Knowing, Most Powerful and The Just so I know whatever anyone had ever done to me, they will be dealt with accordingly. This stops me from trying to make justice with my own hands.

You may think why I am looking at the name of Allah SWT “The Just” even though I said I forgive them. This is because I want justice as anyone would. Even though people may not say it, within them they will always want justice.

Forgiving and letting go will, insha’Allah, bring about a lot of relief and ease for you, helping you to fulfill your amazing potential, without having the past drag you down, leaving you depressed, unhappy and ungrateful.

I hope this helps you and if it does, please share it so that it may help someone else insha’Allah.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

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A Modern Muslimah Sisters’ Talks – OPEN NOW!

Disclaimer
I am not an aalima or a very learned Muslimah. I am just a normal Muslimah trying to learn more about the deen and how to implement it in the 21st century. I intend for these talks to be a way for people to share their knowledge and for us, in our busy lives, to still be able to remember and ponder upon Allah SWT and Muhammad SAW’s commands and guidance.

Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem (In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

I am hoping to set up sisters’ only lecture sessions on Skype, where I will prepare talks, to begin with, varying from imaan to the deen/dunya balance. After the initial stage, I will then be asking the sisters joining to compile their own talks/lectures for the participants. This will allow an open platform for people to be able to gain more confidence in speaking and a better understanding on certain topics within the deen.

To be a part of the experience, insha’Allah, there is a simple procedure. (A Skype account is required.)

1. Comment on this post saying “I’m interested.” (if you are happy to be contacted via the e-mail associated with your WordPress account.) If you would like to be contacted using a different e-mail address, please send me an e-mail at amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com with the message above.

2. Wait for an e-mail from Modern Muslimah (amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com )

3. Respond to the e-mail with the information required

4. If everything is in order, join us for the first session and beyond, insha’Allah! (Dates and times will be revealed to participants.)

Please feel free to share this with as many sisters as you like and please help me to begin this new generation of sisters’ circles!

A Modern Muslimah ❤

The relevance of Islam in the 21st century

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I have recently been watching two medical programmes, one looking at the effects of pork, ham, bacon and other meats on the body and the effect of fasting on the longevity of our lives.

This just made me reflect heavily on the verse “This Day I have perfected for you this religion and completed My Favour upon you and have chosen for you Islam as your religion.” [5:3]

This just shows the completeness of Islam being so perfect in every single way! Alhumdulillah.

The programmes, which I will explain to you, show this manifestly.

The first programme showed that all pig products were so bad for the heart and body that it would cut on average about 6 years off your life through just a relatively small portion.

In Islam, we are forbidden from eating pork or any pig products completely and from a young age, to all of the born Muslims, this is made very clear. However, we haven’t really fully understood why it is prohibited and what is so wrong with it. Myself and the world have only just started to understand the effects of these forbidden foods and the beautiful hikmah (wisdom) behind this.

The second programme, which I haven’t yet completed, is looking at studies which have proved that fasting often can increase the length of a person’s life.

In Islam, we are shown the way of the Prophet Muhammad (SAW). One of the beautiful habits that Muhammad (SAW) used to have was to fast every single Monday and Thursday and often within the four special months of the Islamic calendar. The amazing benefits of this fasting has only recently come to the attention of scientists who have seen that through it, the condition of your health and your life, in general, greatly improves, thus leading you to have a longer life than others.

Allah SWT gives us signs in the places where we may never think there are signs, for example, with me, in a Horizon documentary! But it is these beautiful gifts that we come across that we must use in the best way.

May Allah SWT help us to be more contemplative! Ameen.

The link to the documentary about the effects of meat on the body is:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b04fhb90

The link to the documentary about the effects of fasting on the longevity of a person’s life is:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/iplayer/episode/b01lxyzc/horizon-20122013-3-eat-fast-and-live-longer

JazakAllahu khair.

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: Training!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I had my first day of training yesterday which was just made up of inductions and a few tests/quizzes.

I was so worried about the thought of meeting another new lot of people and also being the only female in the class but alhumdulillah, they were all really nice, there were only a few of them so it wasn’t a large group of new faces and there was another female in my group!

We got to know about the assignments that we will be doing and the credits that we need to earn. I’m still slightly confused as to what the assignments, both work-based and centre-based, are actually made up of. However, I should, insha’Allah, be able to get a better idea of what is going on in each assignment as we go along.

It feels like it will be a lot of hard work and a lot of theory but at this point I think I have the motivation and the determination to really do my best in this, insha’Allah.

Today we will be doing the Customer care assignment and I’m not sure yet but we may also continue it on until tomorrow.

A lot of this motivation, Alhumdulillah, has come from seeing children and young adults unable to gain education due to a multitude of reasons. Therefore, for Allah(SWT) first (of course!), I feel that I am doing this for them in a way.

Insha’Allah may all of our brothers and sisters around the world be granted the ability to gain knowledge, both Islamic and non-Islamic. Ameen!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

You ARE beautiful!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Being a woman, a Muslimah and someone who has been bullied about her appearance, I have always felt that thinking or, even more than that, saying that I am beautiful is a stupid thing that isn’t for me to say, think or even to believe the odd person who may say it.

However I realised today that this is a disgraceful thought to even cross my mind.

How dare I even think or say that I am not beautiful when I am one of Allah(SWT)’s Creation?

“Allah(SWT) only creates that which is beautiful and you are a part of His(SWT) Creation and don’t let anyone tell you other than that.” Mohammad Zeyara

We focus on doing things for His(SWT) Sake so why don’t we, those who don’t think of ourselves as beautiful, think of ourselves as beautiful for Allah(SWT)’s Sake?

It’s kind of like if someone was to make a huge intricately decorated cake which takes them a few days, just for you, and then for you to complain about every little detail about the cake. How would that person feel?

Bad, right?

Allah(SWT) is far more important than “that person” so really think about your thoughts on your own self.

Do a complete evaluation on yourself, looking and ACKNOWLEDGING the immense number of good things about you, whether it be your gorgeous silky hair, your caring nature, your beautiful smile or the many other amazing features which you have about yourself.

Imagine you have to do one of those job interview questions where you have to tell them your best attributes and sell yourself to the employer. Then all you have to do is insert in your best attributes.
These work particularly well in boosting your confidence and allowing yourself to be secure in your own self. (Trust me! I have done enough of them to know what I’m talking about! 🙂 )

Anyway, always remember, whatever ANYONE may say about your appearance or about you in general, you are and always will be BEAUTIFUL, since your Creator(SWT) only creates that which is beautiful!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Amenakin also has a great video up, which I took a bit of inspiration from, as well about this.

This is the video.

Recently I just found Yousef Erakat’s take on things. It was such a beautiful message!

This is the video.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Allepo’s child nurse- at only 14 years old!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I hope you are well.

I came across this amazing video about an extraordinary young man who has inspired me so much.

Upon watching this video, my eyes flowed with tears and my mouth continuously uttered duas.

This young man embodies the Muslim youth, the Syrian revolution and the future for the Islamic world!

Tabaraka’Allah!!

May Allah(SWT) grant him and others like him Jannah tul Firdaus without any reckoning, goodness in this dunya and the Akhirah, ease, a beautiful, pious and caring wife and for his dream, to become a doctor, to come true! Insha’Allah ameen.

This is the video.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

The last stretch…

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I recently came across an amazing article which looked at beating the “mid-Ramadan slump”.

It was something that I could empathise with as I had recently felt such a drop in my enthusiasm levels.

I therefore felt inspired to give you some tips that helped me out.

Tip number 1:

Be sincere in your intentions

Why do you want to pray your salaat on time?
Why do you want to memorize the whole of the 30th chapter?
Why do you want to do extra dhikr?

Make sure you have a clear and sincere intention within, to do it ONLY for the sake of Allah(SWT)!

Tip number 2:

Keep focussed

Being focussed on success at the end of Ramadan will help keep you motivated. Just imagine how you will feel when you can look back on this Ramadan and know that you have achieved SO much!

Tip number 3:

You’re never alone

Many people find that they either have very few Muslims around them or they have non-practising Muslims around them, which have an effect on their productivity and motivation at this point in Ramadan as they don’t have the support system to keep them going.

But don’t worry! You are never alone. Allah(SWT) will help you! Just stay patient, constant and determined! Insha’Allah everything will be okay.

Tip number 4:

Have realistic goals

You only have about 2 weeks left so don’t set yourself incredibly large goals, as when you don’t fulfill them, and you probably won’t, you will feel even worse, making your motivation drop further. Really think about what you are capable of doing in the time left and then make new goals or change your existing ones. This way, you will feel happy with yourself at the end of Ramadan due to the fact that you have fulfilled goals which you set, insha’Allah.

Tip number 5:

Don’t waste time

As we only have less than 2 weeks to go until the end of Ramadan, we can’t waste our time in this blessed month, even if we have jobs or chores or whatever it may be. The easiest way to gain reward is to do dhikr, whilst you’re washing the dishes, reading through your e-mails or commuting.
Whilst commuting, there are a wealth of things that you can do, such as read the Qur’an, read the translation of the Qur’an, listen to beautiful recitations, memorize duas, etc.
Whilst at home, you could have an audio tafsir of the Qur’an playing, you could take short breaks and memorize a few ayat, you could listen to beautiful recitations, etc.

Insha’Allah may we all be completely pardoned of our sins, may we become better Muslims and Muslimahs who will have adopted good habits for life and may we be amongst the servants/devotees of Ar-Rahman! Ameen!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Muslim behind bars…

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I was recently reflecting and thinking about how our dear brothers are going through such hardships within prisons and other evil establishments.

Our young and older brothers mainly, but our young and older sisters also, are imprisoned from America to Cuba, from Gaza to Britain, from Morocco to Jordan, having to withstand humiliation, evil practices of sexual, physical and mental abuse, torture illegal in many places, suffering and isolation, in some places.

However, even though these evil creatures administer these things for our brothers and sisters, such as the Israeli prime minister and the American government, their true faith in Allah(SWT) allows them to keep on going with a smile on their face!

I was watching a few YouTube videos today, one about our brother Amir Mukadith (aka Loon) and one about how a guard at the evil place of Guantanamo Bay accepted Islam after seeing the beautiful spirit of the detainees.

Both videos, and others, brought me to tears. The fact that we, as a ummah, are not doing nearly as much as we can for our brothers and sisters is horrific. Understandably, it’s not easy to help our brothers and sisters, at times, due to the corrupt ways of the Western world but we can make dua, we can find out about charities that are helping and donate as much as we can. We could also fundraise for the charities, if they are available. We could send numerous e-mails and letters to the sources of the evil, bombarding them with our voice. We could start petitions. We could lobby.
We should come together as an ummah against injustice, showing how close we are and allowing more love to flow within the ummah.

We need to be the change!

Just as we don’t follow society like sheep, and we instead lead, we also need to lead the way here, insha’Allah.

Let’s try and do our best to help our amazingly strong and brave brothers and sisters around the world!

Please make dua for all of the brothers and sisters who are imprisoned that they gain shifa, sabr, ease, a high level of imaan and ultimately Jannah tul Firdaus without any reckoning! May they also be granted shade on the Day of Judgement! Insha’Allah ameen.

The videos that I watched were:

Please watch both of the videos, insha’Allah! They were very interesting and eye-opening!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah

What is Ramadan REALLY about?

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I just finished watching a truly, life-changing lecture from br. Nouman Ali Khan about Ramadan, in which he thoroughly explains the meaning of the ayat of Ramadan in the Qur’an.

Please watch! It was very beneficial to me and insha’Allah it will be for you too.

The video is below.

May Allah(SWT) forgive him, keep him steadfast, allow barakah and ease to be in his life and may he enter Jannah tul Firdaus without any reckoning! Insha’Allah ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Here a test, there a test, everywhere a test….

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

At the moment we are currently in exam season. During this time many people go through stress, hardship, frustration and worry,  not knowing what the outcome of their hard work will be.

Months, weeks, hours, minutes and seconds all used in preparation for the big event…..a maths exam.

Many people become so incredibly dedicated to striving hard to gain a good result in their exams, giving up their social life and their sleep in the pursuit of a grade.

So why can’t these same people use all of that energy that they used to gain a good grade in this dunya(world), to gain eternal happiness in the HereAfter?

I don’t say this from a stance of perfection. I am far from perfect, however, Alhumdulillah, I have been granted perspective to realise what is more important in this life.

A grade of yours, in this dunya(world), may be bad but it may grant you a better “grade” in the HereAfter!

Insha’Allah may we all be among those who gain goodness and success in this dunya(world) and the HereAfter! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

AModernMuslimah

The ease of Islam upon Muslims

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Nay- whoever submits his whole self to Allah(SWT) and is a doer of good-he will get his reward with his Lord; in such shall be no fear, nor shall they grieve. [2:112]

Islam is a religion which changes your WHOLE life for the better, from the way that you act towards your parents to the way in which you walk down the street. This allows the Muslim or Muslimah to not waste a single moment of their life in trying to gain goodness for the Hereafter.

Alhumdulillah(All praise is due to Allah(SWT))!

I believe this is why Allah(SWT) tells us to submit ourselves wholly into the religion. The simplicity of Islam is also highlighted here. The fact that it is stated that simply entering into the religion fully and doing good are the criteria for success, show that attaining reward is not hard in Islam, as long as you follow the guidelines/rules. The last part of the verse tells the people that do submit their whole self to Allah(SWT) and do good have nothing to worry about, giving hope, ease and comfort to those who really strive and work hard to submit themselves fully.

May we all be of those who enter into Islam fully and may we all be admitted into Jannah tul Firdous! Insha’Allah(SWT) ameen!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

The real life of a Muslim….

Assalaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

The life that a Muslim is instructed to live and the life that a Muslim ACTUALLY lives is quite different.
The way that we, as humans, fulfill Allah(SWT)’s command is not as it should be. We are all guilty of being less than perfect and we are all guilty, from time to time, of being lazy in our mission to please our Lord(SWT).
Our lives become completely dunya-centric(i.e. we become too focussed on what is going on in the temporary world) and devoid of the rememberance and fear of the Hereafter.
So let’s change it! Insha’Allah(SWT) from today until the day that we can no longer breathe anymore, let’s strive to gain the Love of Allah(SWT), because there is no love sweeter than Allah(SWT)’s Love! Let’s not make any more excuses, saying that we don’t have the right people around us or that we are easily led so it’s harder!


No!


We all have that inner strength within us; it’s just the case of releasing it and becoming our OWN role models, insha’Allah(SWT)!


JazakAllahu khairan.


Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤