A Modern Muslimah Sisters’ Talks – OPEN NOW!

Disclaimer
I am not an aalima or a very learned Muslimah. I am just a normal Muslimah trying to learn more about the deen and how to implement it in the 21st century. I intend for these talks to be a way for people to share their knowledge and for us, in our busy lives, to still be able to remember and ponder upon Allah SWT and Muhammad SAW’s commands and guidance.

Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem (In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

I am hoping to set up sisters’ only lecture sessions on Skype, where I will prepare talks, to begin with, varying from imaan to the deen/dunya balance. After the initial stage, I will then be asking the sisters joining to compile their own talks/lectures for the participants. This will allow an open platform for people to be able to gain more confidence in speaking and a better understanding on certain topics within the deen.

To be a part of the experience, insha’Allah, there is a simple procedure. (A Skype account is required.)

1. Comment on this post saying “I’m interested.” (if you are happy to be contacted via the e-mail associated with your WordPress account.) If you would like to be contacted using a different e-mail address, please send me an e-mail at amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com with the message above.

2. Wait for an e-mail from Modern Muslimah (amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com )

3. Respond to the e-mail with the information required

4. If everything is in order, join us for the first session and beyond, insha’Allah! (Dates and times will be revealed to participants.)

Please feel free to share this with as many sisters as you like and please help me to begin this new generation of sisters’ circles!

A Modern Muslimah ❤

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The good side of bullying

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

The title may have offended you or it may have evoked disgust at me for writing such a thing. However, if you read the definition and explanation of the title, you will understand, insha’Allah.

Being a person who was bullied myself, I remember every horrible emotion, thought and feeling that I felt during those hard times. And it hasn’t gone away.

But one thing that I have found during my life and even now, after everything, is a good part of me which I love.

At first, I thought it must just be that I was blessed with these qualities as everyone gets different blessings. But then I saw a link forming with this blessing within the self and bullying.

I have been watching some YouTubers for a few years now and I know quite a lot about them. One thing I know about a few of them is………that they were bullied. In high school, secondary school, middle school, you name it, they were bullied.

The special thing about these few YouTubers that were bullied is that they posses the qualities which I thought were just a blessing from Allah (SWT) to me.

The qualities that I speak about are kindness to humanity at large, a real care and concern for humanity, love for animals and the world, a desire to spread only love around the world and most importantly, a strong sense of faith, where everything comes from.

I will show you some examples of this from YouTubers that I know that are like this after being bullied.

The first YouTuber is Karim Metwaly (AreWeFamousNow/AreWeKukuNow). He is known for his loving, caring and peaceful attitude to the world.

In the video below, he speaks about the beauty of people.

The second YouTuber is Yousef Erakat (FouseyTube). He is now known for his social experiments of real life situations.

The video below is about the reactions of people to discrimination towards hijab-wearing women.

The third YouTubers are TrueStoryASA (TrueStoryASA/ASA Vlogs). They are known for being very loving towards all creatures, especially Adam Saleh.

This video is a way that they wished to just help the homeless, without realising that they would start a worldwide movement.

The fourth YouTuber is Amena Khan (Amenakin). She is known for her love of helping others by inspiring and motivating sisters/women.

This video is one of her videos in which she just talks about an issue she can speak about from a personal perspective.

These four/five YouTubers have been my evidence for bullying not being all bad.

Yes, it is definitely the one of the worst things you can go through at that time, without a doubt. But the way Allah (SWT) gives you blessings isn’t always the way that you want it to be.

Sometimes we do need to look a little bit deeper to see the light shining at the end of the tunnel.

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Brother who?

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are all well.

Today I saw just what Muslim males are capable of being.

I went down to the prayer room within the training centre that I am at and began praying. Then after about 2 rakaat into my fardh salaah, I saw someone come in from the corner of my eye. I thought it was a sister so I didn’t take much notice. However the person then walked across to the sink and did wudhu. That’s when I realised this was not a female. I then continued praying, as I was in the middle of my salaah, being as careful as I could in each gesture.

Throughout it all, I felt an inherent fear and confusion as to how a Muslim male could come into a room with just one female within it. Did he not know how to behave with women? Did he think it was okay?

As soon as I finished, I kindly requested that he leave until I finish my salaah. I also added that it’s not good for a man to come in whilst a female is praying. He then responded to this by saying he is a lecturer. I then replied “What does it matter? Brother please can you leave whilst I finish my salaah?”

This then set him off. He replied in a disgusting, vile and intimidating manner saying “I am not your brother! I am a lecturer and you are a student. Don’t tell me what to do!”

To see this response from someone who I am supposed to call my brother, angered, shocked and disgusted me! His arrogance at his position, coupled with his complete ignorance of khalwah (a male and female being alone), made me question just what kind of a male he really was.

He was not young and he clearly was of sane mind as he spoke with another brother who thought it was completely fine to come in whilst I was in the prayer room as well!

After the incident, I did report the incident and it is currently being looked into.

Brothers need to realise that they need to lower their gaze more than us females and that the prayer room doesn’t belong to them, thus not allowing them to feel as though they can barge in at any time.

At work, I have similar issues but not the same. As I just truly engross myself within salaah, I am met by a hard and loud attempt to gain access to the prayer room, jolting me and making me slightly lose my concentration.

Where has the hayaa in males gone?

Where have the manners gone from males?

What is going on?

Being used to males who would look down as I walked to what I have now which are males who stare as I go, I feel out of my depth and uncomfortable.

Do these males not understand what us Muslim and non-Muslim females feel when we are alone with them?

If not, I will tell you.

It is a mix of slight fear, apprehension, confusion and uncertainty. It is that feeling in which a person has to prepare themselves for anything that may come their way.

Islam has made women important and special in various aspects. For example, women have a whole surah about them in the Qur’an! We definitely must be something special then!

This complete disregard to Muslimahs needs to change.

Insha’Allah may we all be aware of our mistakes and rectify ourselves! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: First week of training!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I’m so sorry for being late with my post. Trust me to be late after I officially posted my plan last week!

Last week, we didn’t do a lot. We completed an assignment, which should have been done in 5 hours, but we did it in a few days. Oops!

It was to do with customer service and ensuring the customer has the best experience.

It was very interesting in learning how to handle different types of customers and what to do in each case, along with many other things.

We also did a customer care pack, which was to do with how to talk to customers and the types of phrases we would use.

In both there was a lot of content which is hard to explain fully so I just gave a small summary.

Overall, despite my frustration of being corrected by my tutor in a bad way (in my opinion!) on the first assignment, it was a really good week! Everyone is so fun and helpful. Alhumdulillah, we all seem to get on really well.

Despite it being a 1:2 ratio of female to male, it isn’t an awkward or intimidating environment. Alhumdulillah!

I am enjoying this experience a lot and insha’Allah I hope to do really well and learn a lot! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: Training!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I had my first day of training yesterday which was just made up of inductions and a few tests/quizzes.

I was so worried about the thought of meeting another new lot of people and also being the only female in the class but alhumdulillah, they were all really nice, there were only a few of them so it wasn’t a large group of new faces and there was another female in my group!

We got to know about the assignments that we will be doing and the credits that we need to earn. I’m still slightly confused as to what the assignments, both work-based and centre-based, are actually made up of. However, I should, insha’Allah, be able to get a better idea of what is going on in each assignment as we go along.

It feels like it will be a lot of hard work and a lot of theory but at this point I think I have the motivation and the determination to really do my best in this, insha’Allah.

Today we will be doing the Customer care assignment and I’m not sure yet but we may also continue it on until tomorrow.

A lot of this motivation, Alhumdulillah, has come from seeing children and young adults unable to gain education due to a multitude of reasons. Therefore, for Allah(SWT) first (of course!), I feel that I am doing this for them in a way.

Insha’Allah may all of our brothers and sisters around the world be granted the ability to gain knowledge, both Islamic and non-Islamic. Ameen!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Allepo’s child nurse- at only 14 years old!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I hope you are well.

I came across this amazing video about an extraordinary young man who has inspired me so much.

Upon watching this video, my eyes flowed with tears and my mouth continuously uttered duas.

This young man embodies the Muslim youth, the Syrian revolution and the future for the Islamic world!

Tabaraka’Allah!!

May Allah(SWT) grant him and others like him Jannah tul Firdaus without any reckoning, goodness in this dunya and the Akhirah, ease, a beautiful, pious and caring wife and for his dream, to become a doctor, to come true! Insha’Allah ameen.

This is the video.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Never mind lads’ mags, here are some other things I’d stick in a modesty bag | Hadley Freeman

Never mind lads’ mags, here are some other things I’d stick in a modesty bag | Hadley Freeman

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A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience: After 3 days

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Sorry for not posting after my first day. I have been so tired the past 2 days as I get into the 9-5 routine.

My first day was okay but slightly boring as we just had loads of inductions, from both Human Resources and the Technology Support team. We, another apprentice and I, got acquainted with our desks and we got to know what lied ahead for us.

The second day was better as we got to go through a few installations and sort out some printer jams. We got to know how to do it and how to report a fault to the manufacturer if we can’t do anything else. We couldn’t do a lot because only one person of the Technology Support team was there and she had to take calls, as well as keeping us engaged!

The third day, i.e. yesterday, we learned a lot more, from how to resolve calls to how to add a new person into the system. The other person in the Technology Support team came in, after being ill, so we did it with him. With the woman in the team, we went through how to set up a BlackBerry for people in specific departments.

And we got a cupcake! Due to the launch of QVC Extra and QVC Style, the entire Technology department and Media department were all treated to a gorgeous cupcake!

All of the staff seem very genuine, kind, respectful, caring, understanding and very open, alhumdulillah!!! I realised this when the CEO of the company(!) came upstairs to call a member of Technology Support to help him with his problem, when he could have just got someone else to go up for him. That down-to-earth-edness (I made up this word! 🙂 ) is so amazing to see in a HUGE company and just as he doesn’t see himself too big to walk up to Technology Support himself, so does no-one else feel uncomfortable chatting and being friendly to every single person, whether they are in a department above you or a role “below you”.

From this lovely atmosphere (Alhumdulillah!), I feel like part of the company after just 3 days! I don’t think you could feel that with a lot of other companies out there!

Alhumdulillah for everything!

However, one important thing that I was thinking about was the fact that when working in an environment where it is predominantly non-Muslims, your heart may become hard as more of the love of the dunya enters into your heart.

I was wondering if you could help me by telling me some ways I could prevent this as the Akhirah is far more important than the dunya.

JazakAllahu khairan for actually reading this and being a part of my experience as well.

If you have any questions, please ask away!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

My apprenticeship experience!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

As I will be starting my apprenticeship next week, which will last for about a year, I thought to myself why don’t I blog about my apprenticeship and my experience for both other apprentices and the general public to understand what an apprentice and apprenticeship is, and what an apprenticeship entails.

Would you guys be interested?

I will try and do weekly blog posts with some daily blog posts scattered in there, insha’Allah!

I will try to speak about my experiences, feelings, anxieties and what I have learned through it, with the hope that it might help someone deal with and understand the apprenticeship as a whole, insha’Allah.

I thought of this idea just tonight as I sat thinking about what my first day and the apprenticeship, as a whole, will be like.

Oh and for those who have been very confused for the majority of this post as to what I have meant by “apprenticeship”, firstly, sorry! Secondly, I shall explain.

An apprenticeship is a programme which allows you to learn the knowledge needed for your particular field of interest, whilst allowing you to put the knowledge you have learned into practice, pretty much straight away. You also learn some key skills, such as team-work, confidence, professionalism in the work place, health and safety, plus many more. You get paid at least £2.60 an hour. Most apprentices earn about £170-£250 a week. You also get all of the benefits of a normal employee, such as paid holidays, company benefits, etc. Your studies are not for qualifications seen mostly at school or college but a lot of the time, they are industry-related qualifications specifically tailored to apprenticeships and they are known all around the world, whilst only a degree is known around the world.

In short, they are a great way to get your foot into the door of major and smaller companies as well, with Sky, Virgin Atlantic, Qatar Airways and Rolls Royce, being just some of the many companies that offer a way in.

Please let me know if this will be of interest to you!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Get out, you Muslim!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Very sorry for not posting the daily suhoor/sehri updates because I’ve been excused for a week so I haven’t eaten anything for suhoor/sehri to report back on.

Today I thought that I would do a post which really is an issue in my age group and that issue/topic is…

BEING AN OUTCAST FOR BEING A MUSLIM.

Being a young person myself, I have been exposed to this, as you do become whilst living in the West.

Different things, from free-mixing to illegitimate relationships, are the norm in the West, a nation in need of dire help. To be a young Muslim, living in the West, to not have a boyfriend/girlfriend, to not drink alcohol, to not do drugs, to not be in a “relationship”, to not be flirting with every Tom, Dick and Harry, to not be lustfully gazing at the opposite gender, to not be engaged in fornication, to not be dressing to entice the opposite gender, to not be so obsessed with celebrities, to not know every single lyric of every single song, to not know every single line of every single movie, to not be obsessed with money and the dunya, to not be worshipping Satan, and to not be many other things, makes you WEIRD!

The West depicts someone as “normal” when they follow the “rulings” that they follow. As soon as you become free from the shackles of this dunya, you are seen as an outcast for not following what is the “norm”, i.e. what the people have been brainwashed to know as the norm.

As a young Muslimah who has been a part of that life outlined above, I know that there is NO benefit whatsoever that comes from it. Just a sense of emptiness and despair. When I found Islam all over again, it felt as though I was able to see properly for the first time. I remember feeling so free and ecstatic.

So what I advise the people who are encompassed by this dunya is:

1. Have a sincere and strong intention to get out of where you are.

2. Find good friends and acquaintances. (This tip is invaluable! It helped me SO much when I was finding Islam all over again.)

3. Keep striving against your nafs and Shaitaan. Even when your nafs and Shaitaan really want you to do something bad.

4. Make lots of dua, especially at the time of Tahajjud. It will help you to get to an extremely beautiful place in your imaan insha’Allah.

5. If you can’t find good friends or you have to leave them, then remember you always have Allah(SWT) really close to you at all times, closer than your jugular vein.

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I hope this helps, insha’Allah!

May we all be blessed with the opportunity of seeing Laylatul Qadr! Insha’Allah ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

The last stretch…

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I recently came across an amazing article which looked at beating the “mid-Ramadan slump”.

It was something that I could empathise with as I had recently felt such a drop in my enthusiasm levels.

I therefore felt inspired to give you some tips that helped me out.

Tip number 1:

Be sincere in your intentions

Why do you want to pray your salaat on time?
Why do you want to memorize the whole of the 30th chapter?
Why do you want to do extra dhikr?

Make sure you have a clear and sincere intention within, to do it ONLY for the sake of Allah(SWT)!

Tip number 2:

Keep focussed

Being focussed on success at the end of Ramadan will help keep you motivated. Just imagine how you will feel when you can look back on this Ramadan and know that you have achieved SO much!

Tip number 3:

You’re never alone

Many people find that they either have very few Muslims around them or they have non-practising Muslims around them, which have an effect on their productivity and motivation at this point in Ramadan as they don’t have the support system to keep them going.

But don’t worry! You are never alone. Allah(SWT) will help you! Just stay patient, constant and determined! Insha’Allah everything will be okay.

Tip number 4:

Have realistic goals

You only have about 2 weeks left so don’t set yourself incredibly large goals, as when you don’t fulfill them, and you probably won’t, you will feel even worse, making your motivation drop further. Really think about what you are capable of doing in the time left and then make new goals or change your existing ones. This way, you will feel happy with yourself at the end of Ramadan due to the fact that you have fulfilled goals which you set, insha’Allah.

Tip number 5:

Don’t waste time

As we only have less than 2 weeks to go until the end of Ramadan, we can’t waste our time in this blessed month, even if we have jobs or chores or whatever it may be. The easiest way to gain reward is to do dhikr, whilst you’re washing the dishes, reading through your e-mails or commuting.
Whilst commuting, there are a wealth of things that you can do, such as read the Qur’an, read the translation of the Qur’an, listen to beautiful recitations, memorize duas, etc.
Whilst at home, you could have an audio tafsir of the Qur’an playing, you could take short breaks and memorize a few ayat, you could listen to beautiful recitations, etc.

Insha’Allah may we all be completely pardoned of our sins, may we become better Muslims and Muslimahs who will have adopted good habits for life and may we be amongst the servants/devotees of Ar-Rahman! Ameen!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Muslim behind bars…

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I was recently reflecting and thinking about how our dear brothers are going through such hardships within prisons and other evil establishments.

Our young and older brothers mainly, but our young and older sisters also, are imprisoned from America to Cuba, from Gaza to Britain, from Morocco to Jordan, having to withstand humiliation, evil practices of sexual, physical and mental abuse, torture illegal in many places, suffering and isolation, in some places.

However, even though these evil creatures administer these things for our brothers and sisters, such as the Israeli prime minister and the American government, their true faith in Allah(SWT) allows them to keep on going with a smile on their face!

I was watching a few YouTube videos today, one about our brother Amir Mukadith (aka Loon) and one about how a guard at the evil place of Guantanamo Bay accepted Islam after seeing the beautiful spirit of the detainees.

Both videos, and others, brought me to tears. The fact that we, as a ummah, are not doing nearly as much as we can for our brothers and sisters is horrific. Understandably, it’s not easy to help our brothers and sisters, at times, due to the corrupt ways of the Western world but we can make dua, we can find out about charities that are helping and donate as much as we can. We could also fundraise for the charities, if they are available. We could send numerous e-mails and letters to the sources of the evil, bombarding them with our voice. We could start petitions. We could lobby.
We should come together as an ummah against injustice, showing how close we are and allowing more love to flow within the ummah.

We need to be the change!

Just as we don’t follow society like sheep, and we instead lead, we also need to lead the way here, insha’Allah.

Let’s try and do our best to help our amazingly strong and brave brothers and sisters around the world!

Please make dua for all of the brothers and sisters who are imprisoned that they gain shifa, sabr, ease, a high level of imaan and ultimately Jannah tul Firdaus without any reckoning! May they also be granted shade on the Day of Judgement! Insha’Allah ameen.

The videos that I watched were:

Please watch both of the videos, insha’Allah! They were very interesting and eye-opening!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah