The Pursuit of Happiness

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

In this dunya, we have amazing luxuries left, right and centre, all around us. Even if we are not considered rich by the people around us, we are still rich. This is because we have more than what many, many people have around the world.

We subsequently become consumed by these luxuries and our worldly lives, from flying in first class to working in a corporate position.

However, can we describe ourselves as “internally rich”? Meaning, do our hearts really feel happy?

Many people may say “how can your heart feel happy?” But when you find Allah SWT, you can tell. The feeling of weightlessness and ease within your body, specifically your heart, is a feeling like no other.

This is the true meaning of being “rich”.

Our status among the people comes from those things that will perish ultimately, such as our physical appearance, the wealth we have, the university that we went to, etc.

BUT our status with Allah SWT comes from our obedience to Allah SWT, the ultimate and only reason for our existence on this earth.

The video below inspired this post.

May Allah SWT help us to ponder upon life often and save us from being swept up in this mirage. Ameen.

http://youtu.be/OB3DYaF50pQ

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

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Forgiving those who hurt you

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Just now, I was thinking about someone who had hurt me at work with the way that they spoke and the way that they were with me.

But Allah SWT inspired a beautiful thought in my mind: to forgive them and let Allah SWT deal with these affairs wholly.

The act of genuinely forgiving everyone who has ever hurt you in your life can be hard. Especially if they are deep wounds that still affect you today. However, even though I am finding it a little hard to fully and completely forgive everyone who has hurt me, what keeps me going in the right direction is remembering that Allah SWT is the All Knowing, Most Powerful and The Just so I know whatever anyone had ever done to me, they will be dealt with accordingly. This stops me from trying to make justice with my own hands.

You may think why I am looking at the name of Allah SWT “The Just” even though I said I forgive them. This is because I want justice as anyone would. Even though people may not say it, within them they will always want justice.

Forgiving and letting go will, insha’Allah, bring about a lot of relief and ease for you, helping you to fulfill your amazing potential, without having the past drag you down, leaving you depressed, unhappy and ungrateful.

I hope this helps you and if it does, please share it so that it may help someone else insha’Allah.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

A Modern Muslimah Sisters’ Talks – OPEN NOW!

Disclaimer
I am not an aalima or a very learned Muslimah. I am just a normal Muslimah trying to learn more about the deen and how to implement it in the 21st century. I intend for these talks to be a way for people to share their knowledge and for us, in our busy lives, to still be able to remember and ponder upon Allah SWT and Muhammad SAW’s commands and guidance.

Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem (In the name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful)

I am hoping to set up sisters’ only lecture sessions on Skype, where I will prepare talks, to begin with, varying from imaan to the deen/dunya balance. After the initial stage, I will then be asking the sisters joining to compile their own talks/lectures for the participants. This will allow an open platform for people to be able to gain more confidence in speaking and a better understanding on certain topics within the deen.

To be a part of the experience, insha’Allah, there is a simple procedure. (A Skype account is required.)

1. Comment on this post saying “I’m interested.” (if you are happy to be contacted via the e-mail associated with your WordPress account.) If you would like to be contacted using a different e-mail address, please send me an e-mail at amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com with the message above.

2. Wait for an e-mail from Modern Muslimah (amodernmuslimah@hotmail.com )

3. Respond to the e-mail with the information required

4. If everything is in order, join us for the first session and beyond, insha’Allah! (Dates and times will be revealed to participants.)

Please feel free to share this with as many sisters as you like and please help me to begin this new generation of sisters’ circles!

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Sisters before misters!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I hope you are well.

I know there has been a lot of time that I have been absent and I am very sorry! But insha’Allah this will make up for it! 🙂

Since I have started work in an office, I have noticed many things. In a much stronger way. I have noticed the way in which some males can be very chauvinistic, the senior leadership roles being filled with white males, the “office politics” that seem to be present everywhere and one of the most important things that I have come across, women in the workplace and their role within the workplace.

As a woman myself, I understand the ups and downs that we all face. From the pressure to look completely perfect all of the time to the consistent attempt to try and fit into a largely male-dominated playing field. 

However, I am different to the other women. 

I am a Muslimah, giving me a whole new perspective on the situation at hand. Being a Muslimah allows me to be saved from the usual pressures of feeling as though my make-up needs to be perfect, my skirt needs to be as high as possible without being trashy, my cleavage needs to be shown without showing too much, my legs need to be completely smooth and toned, my flirting skills need to be amazing to get what I need and so on. 

All of these pressures, put together with the role of trying to be the perfect wife and/or mother, make me feel so incredibly sad and pained to see every single woman who hasn’t been freed by Islam. With so much pressure upon them to be perfect at everything they do, and to do lots of it, I just wish that I could help them and give them the biggest hug in the world! 

My sisters in humanity are incredibly precious to me, whether they look at me with a disgusted look for dressing in the way that I do or actually treat me like any other woman. 

Islam teaches both men and women to truly respect the status of women. 

The status of a woman in Islam is incredible, shown through the jurisdiction regarding them. Women are saved from going to work in order to keep them from being treated badly by male colleagues and to ensure that they do not have extra stress upon themselves. Women are told to cover themselves completely in order to protect themselves and to be known as women who you should not mess with (i.e. women who are not interested in participating in flirting or any other form of debauchery). Women who become mothers have Paradise at the bottom of their feet (not literally!) but through respect, love and patience with mothers, Paradise can easily be earned. 

These are but a few examples of the status of women within Islam, despite what others may believe or say about the subject.

Women are incredibly sensitive, special, amazing, beautiful and strong creatures with so much to give to society. However, media and society in general has reduced the beautiful human to a subservient object of attraction, a tool to be used to fulfill males desires and a angry intense ball of hatred and jealousy for fellow women.

Through this re-shaping, society has started to break down as the true core of society, women, has been reduced to a low level.

I hope that we can do something as sisters in humanity to change this harsh reality and save ourselves and others.

Unusually, all of this stemmed from standing in a bathroom, watching two women put on make-up and fix themselves up in the morning…

May Allah (SWT) help us to be able to lead change and gain closeness to our fellow women. Ameen. 

JazakAllahu khairan for reading this.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Brother who?

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are all well.

Today I saw just what Muslim males are capable of being.

I went down to the prayer room within the training centre that I am at and began praying. Then after about 2 rakaat into my fardh salaah, I saw someone come in from the corner of my eye. I thought it was a sister so I didn’t take much notice. However the person then walked across to the sink and did wudhu. That’s when I realised this was not a female. I then continued praying, as I was in the middle of my salaah, being as careful as I could in each gesture.

Throughout it all, I felt an inherent fear and confusion as to how a Muslim male could come into a room with just one female within it. Did he not know how to behave with women? Did he think it was okay?

As soon as I finished, I kindly requested that he leave until I finish my salaah. I also added that it’s not good for a man to come in whilst a female is praying. He then responded to this by saying he is a lecturer. I then replied “What does it matter? Brother please can you leave whilst I finish my salaah?”

This then set him off. He replied in a disgusting, vile and intimidating manner saying “I am not your brother! I am a lecturer and you are a student. Don’t tell me what to do!”

To see this response from someone who I am supposed to call my brother, angered, shocked and disgusted me! His arrogance at his position, coupled with his complete ignorance of khalwah (a male and female being alone), made me question just what kind of a male he really was.

He was not young and he clearly was of sane mind as he spoke with another brother who thought it was completely fine to come in whilst I was in the prayer room as well!

After the incident, I did report the incident and it is currently being looked into.

Brothers need to realise that they need to lower their gaze more than us females and that the prayer room doesn’t belong to them, thus not allowing them to feel as though they can barge in at any time.

At work, I have similar issues but not the same. As I just truly engross myself within salaah, I am met by a hard and loud attempt to gain access to the prayer room, jolting me and making me slightly lose my concentration.

Where has the hayaa in males gone?

Where have the manners gone from males?

What is going on?

Being used to males who would look down as I walked to what I have now which are males who stare as I go, I feel out of my depth and uncomfortable.

Do these males not understand what us Muslim and non-Muslim females feel when we are alone with them?

If not, I will tell you.

It is a mix of slight fear, apprehension, confusion and uncertainty. It is that feeling in which a person has to prepare themselves for anything that may come their way.

Islam has made women important and special in various aspects. For example, women have a whole surah about them in the Qur’an! We definitely must be something special then!

This complete disregard to Muslimahs needs to change.

Insha’Allah may we all be aware of our mistakes and rectify ourselves! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan for reading.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

CLEARLY I’M NOT A MUSLIM?

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I was flicking through my subscription list on YouTube to see all of the videos that had been uploaded and I came across Yousef Erakat (FouseyVille)’s video. It was titled “CLEARLY I’M NOT A MUSLIM?” in which he spoke about a comment he received after doing a video with a girl sitting right beside him. The comment read “Clearly you’re not a Muslim.”. He responded in an angry manner but with good points. He questioned how sitting next to a girl made me a non-Muslim, how helping someone with a problem made him a non-Muslim and how someone who doesn’t know him at all can be the one to take away his Islam.

The video made me think about the attitude that I used to have, which was that if people were doing bad things they weren’t good Muslims or if they weren’t praying that they weren’t Muslim. These ignorant and disgraceful views, that I used to have, have been challenged recently in my life through both my mentoring and my life. I have come to realise a lot about a Muslim living in the West and also I was reminded that in the same way that I have done bad things, other people are also human and make mistakes.

The best thing to do if you see someone, a Muslim or a non-Muslim, doing something wrong, is to make dua for their guidance and safety from the issue which is causing them to go astray. This is what you do if you really love your brother or sister.

This is the video.

I also remembered coming across Karim Metwaly (AreWeKuKuNow)’s video on the same topic. It is titled “I am not a Muslim?” In the video, he talks about the various comments he had got about him not being a Muslim. I wasn’t too sure of the context of this video however it was very powerful.

He was also accused of not being a Muslim due to the content of his videos. This infuriated him, as I am sure it would do to anyone, so he vented through the video.

This is the video.

The subject of being labelled a non-Muslim reminded me of the time before I practised Islam. I used to be laughed at due to the fact that I wasn’t interested in Islam and I didn’t know how to practise it properly.

I distinctly remember a particular instance when one of the more religious people asked me a weird question.

“What would you rather do, watch Top of the Pops or read Quran? (I think that was the other option. I know it was an Islamic option in contrast.)”

I then said, with full passion, “Watch Top of the Pops, of course.” I was confused as to why they asked me this, at the time. (Now I fully understand!) So I enquired and in between heavy laughing and scornful words, they replied “Oh, no reason.”

Now the situation is quite different! (Alhumdulillah!!) The same people, who used to laugh at me, now try to be my best friend, and I talk to them nicely but I will always keep my distance.

Negative people should have no place in your life!!

As we are all humans, we will make mistakes. However, the difference between a profitable person and a non-profitable person is whether they learn from them.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

You ARE beautiful!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

Being a woman, a Muslimah and someone who has been bullied about her appearance, I have always felt that thinking or, even more than that, saying that I am beautiful is a stupid thing that isn’t for me to say, think or even to believe the odd person who may say it.

However I realised today that this is a disgraceful thought to even cross my mind.

How dare I even think or say that I am not beautiful when I am one of Allah(SWT)’s Creation?

“Allah(SWT) only creates that which is beautiful and you are a part of His(SWT) Creation and don’t let anyone tell you other than that.” Mohammad Zeyara

We focus on doing things for His(SWT) Sake so why don’t we, those who don’t think of ourselves as beautiful, think of ourselves as beautiful for Allah(SWT)’s Sake?

It’s kind of like if someone was to make a huge intricately decorated cake which takes them a few days, just for you, and then for you to complain about every little detail about the cake. How would that person feel?

Bad, right?

Allah(SWT) is far more important than “that person” so really think about your thoughts on your own self.

Do a complete evaluation on yourself, looking and ACKNOWLEDGING the immense number of good things about you, whether it be your gorgeous silky hair, your caring nature, your beautiful smile or the many other amazing features which you have about yourself.

Imagine you have to do one of those job interview questions where you have to tell them your best attributes and sell yourself to the employer. Then all you have to do is insert in your best attributes.
These work particularly well in boosting your confidence and allowing yourself to be secure in your own self. (Trust me! I have done enough of them to know what I’m talking about! 🙂 )

Anyway, always remember, whatever ANYONE may say about your appearance or about you in general, you are and always will be BEAUTIFUL, since your Creator(SWT) only creates that which is beautiful!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Amenakin also has a great video up, which I took a bit of inspiration from, as well about this.

This is the video.

Recently I just found Yousef Erakat’s take on things. It was such a beautiful message!

This is the video.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Allepo’s child nurse- at only 14 years old!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

I hope you are well.

I came across this amazing video about an extraordinary young man who has inspired me so much.

Upon watching this video, my eyes flowed with tears and my mouth continuously uttered duas.

This young man embodies the Muslim youth, the Syrian revolution and the future for the Islamic world!

Tabaraka’Allah!!

May Allah(SWT) grant him and others like him Jannah tul Firdaus without any reckoning, goodness in this dunya and the Akhirah, ease, a beautiful, pious and caring wife and for his dream, to become a doctor, to come true! Insha’Allah ameen.

This is the video.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Never mind lads’ mags, here are some other things I’d stick in a modesty bag | Hadley Freeman

Never mind lads’ mags, here are some other things I’d stick in a modesty bag | Hadley Freeman

http://gu.com/p/3t6h7

A Modern Muslimah ❤

I see you!

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

As I watched a rather large spider sit there poised on the wall, as still as a statue, I glared at it, watching it’s every move to ensure that I was able to escape if it started moving.

However, as my whole attention went onto the spider and the decision as to whether it was going to come and attack me and when, I realised something truly amazing.
That this might just be a sign from Allah(SWT).

As I was so concerned about my actions and was very careful not to move heavily, in order to prevent the spider moving and running about, I thought to myself am I that concerned about my actions when it is Allah(SWT) Who(SWT) is continuously there and Who(SWT) can strike fear into a believer’s heart faster than any creature on this earth?

I sadly and regrettably realised that the answer was no.

We become worried and scared of other people’s reactions to our sins but we don’t think about the Opinion of The All Mighty(SWT) as much.

Why is this?

Why are we so forgetful of Ar-Raqeeb (The Watchful)?

Why do we not feel as ashamed when doing sinful and disgraceful deeds in front of the Most High(SWT) and the Most Powerful(SWT)?

As an ummah, especially in the West, it seems as though we have become numb to shameful deeds and grave sins, just shrugging them off. Be it looking at the awrah of a woman (it is prohibited for both women AND men), or having constant skin-to-skin contact with the opposite gender, we seem to be adopting the mentality of people that we are not and we seem to be taking on an identity that isn’t ours.

Our ways have come to us as a blessing to us, as our conduct, lives and ways have been outlined by the One(SWT) Who(SWT) knows us better than our own selves.

Insha’Allah may we all be more aware of Allah(SWT) and take care of ourselves as we are continuously being watched by Allah(SWT). Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

Letting go….

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

During Ramadan, we have left the permissible acts of eating, drinking and having marital relations for the sake of Allah(SWT). This, in itself, has been a big struggle due to the fatigue, exhaustion, hunger, thirst, reduction in mental agility and lack of concentration but our love for the One(SWT) Who(SWT) gave us these things far out-weighed our desires.

Within my life, I recently also gave up things for the sake of Allah(SWT), such as going on YouTube amongst others. This was because I could see that my time spent in these activities was being wasted and it made me realise just how little the time we have in Ramadan but also in life.

We use the extraordinary blessing of time in such a disrespectful way at times, wasting away parts of ourselves to the television and internet.

Time in Islam is such a huge blessing that there is even a surah all about time, surah al-Asr!

But going back to my main point. Leaving things for the sake of Allah(SWT) always leads to happiness, tranquility, ease and a higher level of imaan. As what we leave is most probably going to be something of the dunya, it only helps our hearts to be freed further from the dunya and it makes us become more dependent on Allah(SWT), the One(SWT) Who(SWT) created those things!

Insha’Allah may we all become of those who are able to be free from the dunya and to have full and complete reliance on Allah(SWT) only. May we also be able to use our time in a very productive way to gain the most benefit for ourselves before our deaths! Ameen.

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤

What did you have for suhoor/sehri today? Day 1 (14th Ramadan 1434/2013)

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

I hope you are well.

I recently thought about doing a blog post every day to see what people ate for suhoor/sehri, even though we are in the middle of Ramadan (a bit late, I know!)

But then I thought about it and everything happens for a reason so maybe starting it in the middle of the month will be motivating, encouraging and will help us to keep focussed on gaining the most out of the time left. (insha’Allah!)

Insha’Allah let’s start this!

Bismillah.

Today I ate golden syrup porridge and 3 dates. I then drank a bottle of water and a glass of milk.

What did you have for suhoor/sehri today?

Please share it with us below!

JazakAllahu khairan.

Assalaamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu,

A Modern Muslimah ❤